this is your reminder irene
calm the fucking breaks on your attachment
stop talking about long-term, end-game, greencard, 2/3/4 years down the line conversations – stop stop stop!!!
as my friend so lovingly put it, we/i need to see where things go with him, and the only guarantee that is happening is our trip in september. NOTHING else.
right now, we are exclusively seeing where things go, but it is still casual. and that means attachment may be capped at level 2. by discussing long-term topics, i am trying to reach levels 7,8,9 all while asking him to unlock a dungeon room – when he doesn't even have the key yet. or has unlocked any of the sidequests to even get the key.
so the fuck what if he calls me pet names, flirts, calls me baby/pookie – SO FUCKING WHAT. that doesn't mean anything since we are still CASUALLY EXCLUSIVELY seeing where things go.
what Irene can do to not go even deeper into attachment/release the floodgates:
- do not text first
- do not call him pet names in return
- ONLY match his energy first