Blown girl on a dating app- “The soul Diggers”
After the past 6 months of endless swiping with no romantic prospects I decided to rant about here because aren't we all evolved to turn our traumas into humor.
One of the most common encounters we all have on dating apps are that when You actually find someone attractive and them not wanting commit and looking for something casual. I know right – “The pain “.
But believe me that's not the worst part when you are using dating apps in India. Because most men here use Bumble/hinge to find companionship, a good friend for a lifetime and to fix them because apparently all of them fell in love with a heartless witch who shattered their heart. And when you tell them that this won't work for you, they say “I am not saying no to something serious, just not ready at the moment but eventually I will be ready”.
I sometimes wonder about the confidence these men have (I am trying to not be rude here but yeah, the right word is “Audacity”), to reach out to a stranger and except them to be give emotional support and the companionship when I still struggle to ask my change back from the auto anna who asked 20rs extra. I really do believe that's it's better that someone openly admit that they are looking for a causal relationship rather than not knowing what they want and expect a girl to come fix them and open their eyes to the whole new world.
Moral of the story- when someone tells you that they want something casual appreciate the honesty and move on. But when they say I am not sure we will talk and go with the flow – “Run Girly”
You know, how commonly women are referred to as gold diggers because they are looking for a man who possess money they don't have.
It's just got me think why there is no word out there for men who look for a lady who can compensate their inefficiency to process their old traumas and absence of emotional maturity. How about we call them “soul diggers”.
I still think seeking a partner with emotional maturity is a healthy expectation.
But when you lack self-awareness and expect it to be compensated by another person and requiring them to heal you is an issue.