Brown Girl on a Dating app.......
It's been more than a decade since I thought of dating and getting to know someone, I guess the statement makes you wonder that a women in her 30's is here to talk about re-entering the dating pool? Plot twist I am 25. Yup the last time when I went on a date, met someone and fell in love, I was in 15. Not here to talk about the toxic abusive relationship I walked out of but the funny stories and strange people I encounter as I decided to find love and settle down (because, Hey ! Not everyone is your ex right ?)
I still remember the day I told my friend that I am ready to have a committed relationship little did I know it's been almost a year since the day and I am still surfing through the Internet looking for the one.
As a desi lady it wasn't easy to get on an dating app without the fear of being judged. And it took me 20 days to actually stay on the app without freaking out and deleting my account. My first choice was bumble as the app promoted itself as women centric. When I was reinstalling the app for Nth time I did get a mail quoting “We noticed a suspicious behavior” and wanted to confirm my ID with a second level authentication.
Yup it took me those many attempts to finally build the confidence and courage to talk and get to know strangers online.
The first ever match on bumble was a Doctor from China, he had already put in his insta handle in the prompts so I was able to do a bit of background check and felt safe to swipe right , and guess what we matched!! The guy was above 6 feet ,a doctor and already made plans for our wedding. So yeah we did text talked about common interests, the convo was good I really did saw a potential there. Before I continue the story further I think I should really drop a bit of a introduction here I guess. I am so clumsy that I may trip over air molecules , and I my brain to keyboard connection is bit fizzy and wonky. So yeah, when we said good night and ended the chat for the night I decided to stalk the guy on Instagram and I accidently double tapped on a post that was a year old. (Who even asked these updates from Instagram, I prefer to click on the little heart at the bottom left if I want to like someone’s profile ) So the super embarrassed me freaked out and decided to unmatch the guy on bumble there goes my first ever match.