What I’ve learned from working as a special education teacher is that most problems just need time, or nothing might help Don’t take it all on. People (including children) do what they’re going to do. Hurting people want to hurt people. Most of the time, the best way you can help, is to not react.
We’re all living in our own movies. We see what we see. Others see differently. If we can offer ourselves with the humility of the fact that no one is perfect (not child or adult), but safety is paramount and we’re going to make sure everyone is safe, but we’re not breaking up every fight, and we can’t be determined to see the immediate effect of showing care (it’s a longer journey), so it’s enough to be. And it’s enough to be there. And you’re allowed to have emotions, and show them so long as it doesn’t create unsafety, and we can see people (children) as just like us Just like us, They are just like us, and if we can see children as just like us, people who are confused and upset, and like all things, that passes, no matter what you do, then we can make a family.
If we can make a family, then life is worth living. If it’s a family of one, and one person finally accepts themselves as a child, who wanted something else Children might have wanted what the parents wanted or something else altogether but we don’t straight get what we want, do we? I’ll help you bear that.